Grief + Grace for Our Younger Selves A Lesson in Integrating Past Experiences + Healing

Grief + Grace for Our Younger Selves A Lesson in Integrating Past Experiences + Healing

In early March before COVID-19 hit the Pacific Northwest hard, my husband and I took a trip to Breitenbush Hot Springs in rural Oregon for some much needed rest and recovery.

The springs were as gloriously relaxing and rejuvenating as you’d imagine.

The land was pristine and so, so quiet.

But I was stressed out about the trip for a full month before we left.

The last time I had visited Breitenbush was 12 years ago at one of the lowest points of my life.

4 Strategies for Staying Engaged in Important Conversations Learn How to Soothe Your System so You Can Stay Present + Grow

4 Strategies for Staying Engaged in Important Conversations Learn How to Soothe Your System so You Can Stay Present + Grow

With all of the deep unrest we’re experiencing around the role of police in our society, and the need for justice, safety, and equity for Black people PLUS a light dollop of COVID concern, I find my nervous system overstimulated and fatigued simultaneously.

Many with chronic health conditions are used to the peaks and valleys of the healing process and the deep personal work it takes to find and address the root cause.

We are now being asked to do this kind of work on a societal and global level.

It’s incredibly necessary that we stay engaged and do the work to bring about change, but it’s also exhausting.

Here are a few tips to help you cope as we move through this year that the history books will remember.

How to Manage Guilt During Quarantine Learn to Care for Your Mental + Emotional Health

How to Manage Guilt During Quarantine Learn to Care for Your Mental + Emotional Health

A few weeks ago I wrote a little blurb for an article about how to best handle these quarantine times, or as I like to say now, quarantimes.

While other practitioners talk about diet and exercise, I chose to focus on mental health because that’s by far the most prominent issue I’ve been witnessing in my practice. 

People are scared and anxious, but the most common emotion I've observed is guilt.

Many of my patients feel terrible for being annoyed by the restrictions placed on their lives while others are facing a potentially life threatening illness, the death or sickness of loved ones, job loss, business collapse, and much more.

Be Excellent to Each Other Connection + Compassion in a Time of Uncertainty

Be Excellent to Each Other Connection + Compassion in a Time of Uncertainty

I saw this as I was walking around my neighborhood on Saturday and it reinforced my belief that I have some pretty cool neighbors.

In times like these we’ve got to look to the classics for guidance.

The uncertainty we’re living in is uncomfortable, but I’m also grateful for how connected we can all still remain through the magic of the interwebs.

Finding Your Emotional Decoder Ring A Guide to Learning to Interpret Your Feelings

Finding Your Emotional Decoder Ring A Guide to Learning to Interpret Your Feelings

To be honest, I’ve never used an *actual* decoder ring.

I think they used to come in cereal boxes as toys?

BUT…

I have used a metaphorical decoder ring many times in the emotional realm.

Ok, I realize that sounds WAY less fun than the cereal box ring.

However, the personal payoffs you receive from decoding your emotions is pretty massive.

How to Have a Conversation with Your Fear (Realistically) Practical Advice for Dealing with Our Strongest + Most Primal Emotion

How to Have a Conversation with Your Fear (Realistically) Practical Advice for Dealing with Our Strongest + Most Primal Emotion

For just over 2 years now I’ve been building a skill that I never in my wildest dreams thought I’d participate in: rock climbing.

Reflecting on my experiences, I realize there’s been one particular insight that’s taken the full 2 years to come to fruition.

It’s the most important life lesson I’ve learned while stumbling ungracefully through this new skill set that terrifies me most days.

And that’s how to have a conversation with my fear.

What I Did in the Face of Failure How to Claim Your Emotions with Vulnerability

What I Did in the Face of Failure How to Claim Your Emotions with Vulnerability

Last weekend Chris and I went rock climbing at our local gym.

Before getting to the gym, we reviewed some techniques I needed to know to pass a test so Chris could progress in his climbing adventures.

I had experience with this skill set.

I knew what I was doing.

But I still failed the test (not to worry, no rock climbing husbands were harmed).

>> Why? <<

How Your Emotions Affect Your Physical Health The Mind-Body Connection and Why It Matters

How Your Emotions Affect Your Physical Health The Mind-Body Connection and Why It Matters

Your mental and emotional state affect your physical health in a big way.

The reverse, or how your physical health affects your emotions, is clearer to see.

If we have an injury and it takes awhile to recover, and we can get frustrated. Or if we have a nagging, chronic, health complaint, we can get depressed.

BUT, the other side of the coin is much, much more powerful for your overall success in remaining healthy, happy, and balanced throughout your life.

5 Myths About the Healing Journey And The Truth You Need to Hear to Feel Better

5 Myths About the Healing Journey And The Truth You Need to Hear to Feel Better

Healing should be easy.

Once we figure out the right trajectory, it’s a straight shot to feeling better.

Does this sound like your own internal monologue when you’re dealing with health issues, name?

How about these:

My body is broken and I don’t have the tools to repair it. It fights against me and I don’t know why.

If I ignore whatever is making me uncomfortable, it will go away.

I don’t have time to be sick.

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone.

Most people talk to themselves like this (including me!), believing that they are inadequate and incapable of healing.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

We all have the capacity, it’s just whether or not we choose to accept the journey in front of us.

6 Steps To Making You A Priority In Your Own Life How Self-Care is Crucial to Our Health and Happiness

6 Steps To Making You A Priority In Your Own Life How Self-Care is Crucial to Our Health and Happiness

Imagine with me for a second that a good friend of yours — let’s call them Pat — says, “Oh, I’ve got to get going. I’m headed to my weekly spa appointment."

What are your initial reactions?

Be honest. It’s just you and a computer screen.

Envy? Anger? Criticism around his or her use of time and money?

Some of you might respond internally with a “Great! Good for you, Pat!”, and not dwell a moment longer.

But I think the majority of us would feel twinges of those aforementioned emotions.

Now you’re just confused and frustrated for feeling that way.

Wait for it….and now the guilt is setting in. A double whammy!

Why can’t we be happily unattached regarding our theoretical friend Pat?

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